Laughing

Well I got my Niece out of here last night and I am liking an empty can so far once again.  The girl looked at me and said that where she was going the person has ran out of food and I sent some with her last night.  For what I sent it should be enough meals for the person for about a week around that place.  What gets to me is that where my Niece went the person has roomies that hardly help out.  So I stepped up and got something together and told her that tell the person not to worry and it is as a huge Thank You to him from me.  This way I know where the girl is and we both get a breath of fresh air from each other.  I told my Niece last night that I need her here at least 2 days next week and that Monday is one of the days.  Now the day before the bird cooking I told her that I wanted her here so she could watch and help out while I was at it.  Then this way I can teach my Niece in what to do around here when the Holidays come around and people come over for the cooking.  As I say it will be alot of prep work around here for one day of eating around here and it is well worth it.  Plus I will be sending some things home with afew people when they all show up at my place only becuase I know what it is like to cook for one person most of the time here and be broker than snot also on top of it.  Oh well some folks you do not mind helping out becuase they do not ask at all and other's you keep telling them no time and time again and they keep asking.  This past week I made a phone call to another couple and all the one said was that I do not make plans anymore and tough.  So I did not make it over to their place this week at all.  So now when some call me to barrow money now my answer will be no from now on and I have been pulling back the money into eather the jar and or to the one account also.  I have not beat myself up at all for telling them no all of the time for the past year.  As my Husband told me last night that the one couple needs to stop barrowing money and take charge of their own finances instead of barrowing money.  Well my Husband is right on it and I also know that the couple needs a strict budget in place at thier place.  I do not get the help that some folks do that I know at all.  There are times where I wander what some folks do instead of paying bills all of the time.  Or as the one couple does it only put down so much on a bill and wait untill next month to try and catch up.  Some figure that I have all this money around here when I do not.  This is why I have cut and slashed around here totally and watch what goes out around here.  So eather way it is like when some do ask for money around here now I have to say no and do what I have to for my place.  Some tend to forget that I have not got the fuel pump for the truck as of yet and I do not think that they all care.  I am just wandering in what they all think that I do here besides pay bills and hope that the van makes it without getting a ticket for the head light also.  With the ones that ask for money I do not ask to often on getting a ride at all here I would rather try to walk to some places and hope that I make it to point b around here.  Pluss I have been collecting the deposits while I am at it for extra money around here.  Maybe I am doing all of this wrong with the one couple and I have to think of other ways to say no to them.  Now if the loan goes thru around here I will tell them no at all costs around the household since I will have to pay for the house.  Then I will tell them I do not have much food niether for the place.  I figure since I do have a teen in the household that there are some things that come first around here totally and some can not keep barrowing off of me around here.  When some start asking for money again I will get up to the bank and start takeing money out again and makeing sure that the guilt trip is in place for the couple who figure that I have the money.  I have the down payment for the house pulled back around here and I figured that I will not touch it at all untill I get a green light that I have totally gave up on around the place.  If I let the one couple have their way I would have to dip into the one account every month for them to barrow off of me and it would be gone in 6 months if they have thier way in my place.  So I am trying to figure out what some are up to that I know on top of it.  Sometimes I just see no way out of what is going down around me also.  Some folks say that I desirve the treatment that I get for the most part now a days.  I am tired of it to say the least.  Now I will come up swinging from now on becuase I am that tired of it all from some that think they can down right threatin me, to barrowing money off of me.  I will get this place even cheaper around here even if it all kills me in the process of it all.  Some will understand here that live with me in what cheap is all about now also once I think about it all.  I think that is what gets to some folks now.