Shaking my head

Well I have finally found out a few things and it is not good at all here.  I asked the 4 year old in why she had lied to her mother.  I got the answer first of "I don't know" along with the shoulder shrug.  I asked again here and she told me that she did not want to hurt everyone.  That is when I told her that she called me a liar and it was not a cool thing to do here at all.  Between that and the child not eating here it all makes me wander in what the father is really saying to her at this time.  The other thing is that I can not stay home all of the time anyway here and have to get out and do for the household along for myself.  Since I needed a composting bucket for the household and being told that I am freaking out over nothing anyway, there will be a huge differance in my Husbands attatude by the time next week is over here.  I figure that the girl wants to waste food here in my place and figures that it is ok and my Husband figures that it is ok also then I will make a huge point by throwing all of what the child does not eat here in the one bucket then to show the both of them that hey it is money going out the door here for not giving a damn.  The other thing is that knowing that the meds are messing up the 4 year old anyway I have almost thrown up my hands and gave up on trying to do for the girl.  Even though I will not even budge on if ya do not eat no goodies before ya leave here at all totally.  That and the rule of do not move from the table untill I wipe off your hands.  Well yesterday here the girl started grunting to get up from my chair and I ignored the grunts in the hope of that she would say something here totally.