I do not blame at this point

Well I am not blaming the mother for who I work for at all at this point in time.  At this point there are 5 children in the house and the baby is 19 months old and the oldest is almost 11.  The 19 month old is so use to being picked up and caried before I got there that she had to learn that I can not always pick her and her sister up all of the time when I have them.  With the 19 month old she was a meth baby and has had some problems anyway and the legs were the least of my worries at the time and still are.  As I told the momma the girl is normal for being the 5th child out of the bunch at this time since she climbs and other things that I have noticed with the attatude of the child.  The poor thing is trying to keep up with the others so she will climb and try to push the limits more than the others totally in the household.  The 19 month old has muscles that have went wierd since some pick her up all of the time and she does not walk and run all of the time like she should.  ISince I can not pick her up all of the time I tell her to wait for a minute and then take her by the hand and walk her over to a chair then lift her at that point.  The babies legs are straighter than they were when I first started baby sitting for her and her momma.  I also make the girls run in the driveway at their place at this point in time.  In what the parents want does not always happen at all and they know this about me at the house.  I do not have a problem with the other folks on the block and the street over also now after I have had the chance to talk with most of them totally.  I have also earned the respect out of the older woman right next door to where I work at also.  The funny part of it all is that there is so much that I do with the kids out of the household that it does not bother the woman next door when she hears the basketball going on the driveway now since I am out there with the kids and boys will be boys totally.  Since we all have what I call cheerleaders when the boys are playing and I try to get everyone involved in what we are doing at that point in time.  ALso the other parents know that I will be keeping an ear out for everyone also and they do not have to worry at all with me.  I know some children have problems and will keep an eye out for them period as much as I can for some signs also for the problems that they have or have had.  One of the boys father had reminded me of something the other day and I pulled my crew in to lay down the law to them about some things that I wanted done before they all go outside to play totally.  The boys understood where I was coming from also when I said something to them.  What I had told them was homework first then change out of the school outfits and they all agreed to what I was saying at that point.  I run a tight ship with the kids and they all know this about me when I am around their place.  I expect some lip from the boys and I remind them I am not their parents and I have to keep them in check by the state that we are in totally at this point so they do not hurt themselves and others at this point in time.  It is one of the loop holes in NY State that alot of people do not know about at all.  This is what gets to alot of the parents at this point is that they have not my child syndrome at the school and other places at this point.  My answer is I would not doubt it with the child and what all happened and I want to talk to all parties involved at this point in time in what happened.  I want all sides before I say yes or no on the situation on hand here.  Some will agree to it and I will take the other parent on also while I am at it for the problem.  All I am saying is i would not doubt it out of the child and go from there untill all parties are talked to period.  Pluss here in NY State almost everyone is scared of the children to where I am not at all scared at all of them.  So now at this point in time some already know that the kids will come out in one piece after I get done and I expect crash landings along with blood at times nomatter in how carefull I am and the kids are.  As I told the kids when I first started sitting them that I expect blood at meal time other than that try not to make eachother bleed at all.  That is one of the ground rules that I have other than the 19 month old still taking on 2 naps a day at this point in time of course.  I will also smack hands when need be around the household to say no ya don't touch or no you can not do that at all here with me.  The boys always ask when I am coming back to sit with them and so on around the house.  Since I am the hard but firm at the same time at their place and explain some things to them totally in the why I want this done this way and not mom's way while I am there they also understand in where I am going with alot of things also.  So now at this point in time with all 5 kids I told them guess what I will be hard and this is why I am my momma and there is more of you than there is with me so yes I will be harder at times on some things.  They also understand in where I am coming from also at this point.  So now just to get the kids to shead the attatude with women when they go to their fathers household at this point in time it would be even better on their mom's part and my part at this time nomatter in what is going on for the household.  Now to explain that part to the boys and to the one girl in the household at this point in time here also while I am at it all.  I understand where the kids are coming from and then some at this point and I did give out advice on some things in the household without knowing it at the time.  So I need to say something to the older bunch at this time in what I know and been thru also so they do not feel like they are left out at this point in time at all.  I know what some parents do and they just do not care for their children at all and expect them to roll over at all times for them.  I was rough and tumble as a child and rolled with the punches and with here's the deal and deal with it all at this point in time.  There were tears on my part on being frustrated and I delt with it all all these years because I had to at this point in time and things are coming out now years and years later.