Cutting back

Well I have been cutting back here in the household here without a problem here and that is how I like it here also.  When some figure that I can just pick up and go for 2 days here and not even think about what is in the household and my luck here it is not worth the trouble at all.  Since the gal would not listen to me at all here on where to cut down in her household I left it alone and did not want any part of her going to get the new dog period here anyway.  Not only that when I told the person that I could go on the 10th since the doctor canned the appointment I got ignored and told that well I knew that I was going to be over the next day it was not worth the reply at all and I knew something else was up also.  When the gal said that myself and my Husband were liars last week I was done totally on a date that she told the both of us here the week before to when she wanted to leave.  Now at this point last week on Monday I had asked a question of the gal that wanted me to go with her to pick up another dog if she could take off her shoes here when she came in and kind of explained why that I wanted to see if my dog would stop going in the household here 3 days a week the gal tried to blast me out of the water totally and it did not work at all to her favor.  So now I am really wandering if the gal is doing the same thing here that she did in her home state totally when she lost her kids in also and can not get them back along with other kids also in the state of NY.  I can only guess in what happened here besides in what the gal told me and it is haunting her to this day along with her husband that has passed away.  Seeing what the gal did to me while I was gone and there should have been very little in the garbage can out side here to go out anyway and I got told by her that "Oh I forgot to put out the can to the curb for your household" along with "Oh the city never said something to me for my place with 10 bags outside never making it to the curb" also.  Now I know in some of the whys of what is really going on at this point in time and when the statement is made to me also here of why should the gal clean when it is just her in the household I really wandered.  Now granted people have to work nomatter in how many kids they have in the household period totally.  When I had my step children and my nefew with me I had 3 jobs and was going to school also and still managed to keep up with the household for the most part to try to keep it clean in what I was doing.  It was cluttered granted along with being clean and food in the house also at the same time.  It did not look like a bomb went off totally at all in where I lived at since I did try to keep up with things.  So now I am really wandering if the other state said something to NY State here in what happened and that her husband that has passed was not a good place for his children to be since she was deamed unfit totally also in the other state that she came from.  There is alot of unanswered questions that are out there that never got answered at all and may never will at this point.  All I know is that the gal did not want her children up here in the NY State area with what a dear friend was doing also and she said she would not fight for the kids at all.  Well it came out that the gals mom and stepfather in so many words adopted the kids also at the time in what I was told and some did not waver from what they have said and it went with what her daughter said also here at the time and yes I have kept my mouth shut on alot of things here.  Also here within the last month in the house here some said that she was spoiled by her husband totally and she did not think of the costs of it also in what I could remember out of it all.  I hate to say it at this point in time even though I love the guy dearly he left her just totally broke and still has along with his parents.  Maybe that was my biggest fear that I had with the gal when my Husband totally asked for us to barrow money off of her is being drug into court for not paying her back right away when I did.  Granted I have trust issues here and would not chance the house at all period and getting thrown out here and I pretty much pulled the money out of my toush.  That is why I let the gal run up some bills on me and never complained one bit on it all untill I could pay her back here and never wandered why she took her laundry needs before she left for her home state and came back.  The gal never really cared in why I was doing the things that I was doing for the household here and never will at all since I am the cheap one here totally.  Also she helped my Husband drop my own toush on the curb to cut me down for what I could not get to at all at the time and hurting in alot of ways here.  That is part of the reason of why I have had alot of the weight lifted off of me when the gal threatined me this past week that she would not come out to the house here since I am nothing but a "Drunkin Bitch" in her eyes and gets nothing done anyway.  This is why some laughed when I told the gal fine then don't come over and it is no skin off of my nose nor toush at this time.  This is why I have been feeling good this week when I said fine then don't, since I could careless in what the gal does anyway.  I am not freaking out at all here and I am happy that it is over with here since I have got blamed for things that I have not even done at all.  This is what some have not understood at all here and I do not expect them to at all at this point in time.  There is just alot of other things also here that I will let go here also since I have always known that I was on my own and that was the last person I expected to hang something over my head here in the new place.